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Dealing With Female Midlife Crisis

By Sally Delacruz


Women in their 40s and 50s fall into a crisis that is disorienting depending on how well it is handled. This is commonly referred to as female midlife crisis. This is a confusing period that lasts between 3-10 years. It requires careful handling to avoid possible dangers as a result.

Signs of aging send most women into panic mode. It dawns on them that they are getting old. These years are also characterized by emotional and physical changes that are not easy to conceal. Wrinkles also appear as a sign of irreversible aging. Women are worried about stability in relationships, at work and about their health.

The signs and triggers are not similar in all cases. The worry is about careers in some while others feel like they should have had more passion in their careers. Other regret sacrificing their passion and going for what gave them more money. There is a desire to accomplish childhood dreams.

Children are a source of concern for women at this age. They are worried that they are growing too fast or they are not there. They fear that soon the children will leave home to go work, school or get married. Difficulties in the lives of these children are sometimes interpreted to mean faulty parenting. This comes with self blame.

Aging or the death of a parent is a source of worry for many women. The relationship changes and the lady seems lost. Death can be devastating because it leaves a gap that cannot be filled by anyone. The idea of having someone to spend holidays with or take children to visit is comforting. Absence brings confusion and causes disarray.

It is characteristic of women to get moody and strange at this stage. They are dramatic and easily stressed. They begin a new search for lost dreams or goals. They also are likely to pick teenage behaviors like clubbing, drinking and dancing. Others remember that they always wanted to sing and they want to pursue that.

A woman at this stage is remorseful and feels unaccomplished. It feels as though life is coming to a dramatic and drastic end. This causes panic as she struggles to do what she wished she would have done years ago. She is likely to return to old friends and such habits as drinking or clubbing.

Many women feel intimidated and humiliated by their colleagues or friends who are more successful. This causes them to avoid public appearances. They begin to reminiscent chances and opportunities that would have made them more successful. This is likely to bring depression.

Some women run to alcohol to drown their frustrations. This is sometimes interpreted as a return to youthful abandon. Some begin buying extravagant jewelry, clothing and gadgets that they do not need. Youthful behaviors like tattooing appeal to others at this stage.

Midlife crisis is likely to come with depression if allowed to persist for a long time. The feeling of dissatisfaction with personal image and accomplishment is dangerous. Some have engaged in relationships with younger men to compensate where fathers or husbands are absent. They encourage their children to excel in academic or expression disciplines like sports, art and music. The time taken depends on how well it is handled.




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